Moms usually mean well but sometimes they say things to make us feel better that don't actually turn out that way. Sometimes, the statements stay with us, burned into our subconscious and directing behavior of which, we are hardly aware. My sister was a beautiful child with Grace Kelly legs (for you younger folk, Grace… Continue reading Mom May Not Know Best
I loved taking drives with my mother at any age because we would always find an ice cream stand. No matter how many years went by her order was always a large vanilla twist and I can't see one today without thinking of her - I miss you mom. In her later years she seemed… Continue reading Judge Me Not
… Or so many people think. In fact, feeling like one is IN control is necessary at least in the context of your own well-being. I personally, have a few ‘control issues’ and proclaim them loudly now that I have an understanding of how they manifest and why they are part of my personality makeup.… Continue reading Control is a Bad Word…
My mother was known to say “I love you deeply but right now I don’t like you very much.” Think about it… The hardest relationships to maintain and carry on day to day are the ones with those individuals that we see most often, spend the most time with; our significant others and family members… Continue reading You’ve Got a Rash!
I heard a story awhile back about an older couple who decided to try counseling before calling it quits after 40 years of marriage and when they sat down with the counselor for the first time the therapist turned to the gentleman and asked “How would you describe the problem in your marriage?” – The… Continue reading Love Language
In psychology circles there are certain terms thrown around a lot... defenses, ego, schema, transference, resistance, etc.... I almost always think of Freud when I hear these words although not all of them are attributed directly to him, they just sound like big words for what the general public thinks of as human behavior. I don't use… Continue reading D.E.F.E.N.C.E.
By now, most of us on a journey of growth and change have heard the term “authentic self” and yet I feel aware that there is confusion about what it means. We throw around the phrase ‘who I am’ or ‘my true self’ so much so that there seems to be an expectation to develop… Continue reading Dance of Discovery