This is the second post inspired by Dr. Brenee Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability. One of the statements she made was regarding ‘shame’ was “the less you talk about it – the more you have it”; a statement I feel needs more discussion. Occasionally, clients will talk about having a ‘secret’, something they’ve held onto… Continue reading Ditch the Secret – Talk About It!
Yesterday I made the claim to a client that "We all are ashamed of something", which I believe to be true. Shame is a self-destructive emotion. I frequently work with clients to stare it down, share their story, acknowledge the lesson, and begin to forgive as an antidote to most shame but to do that,… Continue reading Begin with Being Vulnerable
Each of us has a set of values, hopes, dreams, and a ‘code’ that we would like to live by. Some of us are conscious of it, others ‘feel’ it, but may not be able to explain it in words. We know what all these things are because when they exist in our lives we… Continue reading Be Happy – Set Boundaries!
Most of us have a vernacular habit of saying or thinking “I should….” , what follows is any array or combination of expectations of our values, beliefs, goals, needs, etc. and yet it can be one of the most damaging behaviors in which we engage.Think about it….Mentally list 3 things that you ‘should’ accomplish today:I ‘should’… Continue reading Get RID of the Should’s in Your Life!
Getting back to the dating market after a long absence is daunting at best. It is anxiety provoking and apt to push a lot of self esteem buttons that haven’t been pressed in a long time. Self-doubt and lack of confidence is probably the biggest stumbling block to attaining the relationship of our dreams. As… Continue reading Dating Again?
BrittneyBush / Foter / CC BY-NC-NDFor quite some time, the word “allowing” has been prominent in my thought process and I often talk about it when conducting couples therapy but recently, also in the individual work I do. The first definition of “allow” is “to give permission to or for; permit”. I find that we,… Continue reading Master the Art of Allowing
One of the best relationship coping mechanisms that I have in my tool box and share with clients is that of "qualifying intention". Let's face it, sustaining a loving, healthy, and communicative relationship can be challenging from time to time. It's not that our 'love' falters, but the little frustrations in our daily life tend… Continue reading The Best Intentions