Yesterday I made the claim to a client that "We all are ashamed of something", which I believe to be true. Shame is a self-destructive emotion. I frequently work with clients to stare it down, share their story, acknowledge the lesson, and begin to forgive as an antidote to most shame but to do that,… Continue reading Begin with Being Vulnerable
Each of us has a set of values, hopes, dreams, and a ‘code’ that we would like to live by. Some of us are conscious of it, others ‘feel’ it, but may not be able to explain it in words. We know what all these things are because when they exist in our lives we… Continue reading Be Happy – Set Boundaries!
Most of us have a vernacular habit of saying or thinking “I should….” , what follows is any array or combination of expectations of our values, beliefs, goals, needs, etc. and yet it can be one of the most damaging behaviors in which we engage.Think about it….Mentally list 3 things that you ‘should’ accomplish today:I ‘should’… Continue reading Get RID of the Should’s in Your Life!
BrittneyBush / Foter / CC BY-NC-NDFor quite some time, the word “allowing” has been prominent in my thought process and I often talk about it when conducting couples therapy but recently, also in the individual work I do. The first definition of “allow” is “to give permission to or for; permit”. I find that we,… Continue reading Master the Art of Allowing
Steve Corey / Foter / CC BY-NC (Note: this is not entirely written of my personal experience but a culmination of the hopes, dreams, and fears that have been shared with me by mothers I’ve known professionally and personally. I hope it speaks, at least in part, about a mother’s humanness and intention.) Perhaps earlier,… Continue reading A Letter to My Children: A Mother’s Fear
If you don't decide what your life is about, it defaults to what you spend your days doing ~ Robert Brault This is a quote that I recently added to TheHarmonyCC’s Facebook page and the more I look at it, the more I find that it is one of those sentences that are discussion worthy.… Continue reading Life is About…
I read the other day that PRIDE is one of the keys to happiness and started thinking about how so many of us consider it one of the deadly ‘sins’. I want to challenge your thoughts about pride.... What does it mean for someone to have pride but not to be narcissistic or boastful… how… Continue reading Pride is Not Deadly