In the course of couple’s therapy I am almost always investigating the extent to which the couple is navigating their partnership. As may be imagined, the entire model of ‘partnership’ is generally broken when a couple is in crisis. It becomes essential then to reestablish parameters and potentially renegotiate how their partnership looks and works.… Continue reading Partnerships Defined – the anatomy of a good relationship
I read the other day that 91% of American adults now own cell phones. In fact, many of us have completely retired land lines. Why not? Cell phones allow us to be connected to the world, communicate in 3 different formats (voice, email, & text), and easily slide into a pocket or purse. Love ‘em… Continue reading Text Me Not
My mother used to say that she had “so many regrets” as do many of the clients I work with. Personally, I feel that REGRET [defined here as a feeling about an action / behavior / decision that I am responsible for) is a complete waste of our mental and emotional energy – robbing the… Continue reading No Regrets! 5 Ways to Eliminate the Uglies
One of the things I hear A LOT when I work with couples is that “things have changed from when we were first together”. Let’s be realistic, relationships change. As we become more familiar with one another and move through our ‘histories’ – we, as people, change. We make assumptions, we project, and we may… Continue reading Benefits of Having a Snuggle Buddy – How 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Relationship
I can’t keep track of how many times a week I talk about removing the word YOU from statements when people are talking to one another and most importantly, the phrase “you make me”…. Let’s face it… in most cases NO ONE is MAKING you … anything. When we use the vernacular “you make me”… Continue reading No One is “Making” you….
One of the more recent labels popularized by psychology pop culture is the term “abandonment”. Clients will frequently start an introductory session with “I have abandonment issues” but it’s rare that they truly understand how those “issues” play out in defensive responses and/or daily behavior. Abandonment by definition refers to being ‘left’ and is clearly… Continue reading You Left Me…. Consequences of Feeling Abandoned
Ramblings about motherhood and the last child leaving home... what are the lies we tell ourselves?