Unhealthy Behaviors

Control is a Bad Word…

… Or so many people think. In fact, feeling like one is IN control is necessary at least in the context of your own well-being. I personally, have a few ‘control issues’ and proclaim them loudly now that I have an understanding of how they manifest and why they are part of my personality makeup.… Continue reading Control is a Bad Word…

Healthy Behaviors

Dance of Discovery

By now, most of us on a journey of growth and change have heard the term “authentic self” and yet I feel aware that there is confusion about what it means. We throw around the phrase ‘who I am’ or ‘my true self’ so much so that there seems to be an expectation to develop… Continue reading Dance of Discovery

Change, Healthy Behaviors

You Make Me…

How many times have we used the phrase “You make me so ____!!”? You can fill in the blank with angry, sad, hurt, annoyed, happy, etc. I hear it in counseling sessions daily. Those four little words have become so implanted in our vernacular that we don’t pay attention to the actuality of the statement.… Continue reading You Make Me…

Change, Inspiration

You are Enough!

A common statement in counseling sessions is the sentiment “No matter what I do, it’s not enough” and the individual will frequently express feelings of being ‘unloved’. Sometimes it is a current experience, other times it is a feeling / sentiment from the past; perhaps from one’s family of origin. We all know the examples… Continue reading You are Enough!

Change, Healthy Behaviors

Change your REaction

We've had several questions about how to get 'other people' to do things that we want them to do, things that may be in their best interest, sometimes for the sake of their health. There are so many extenuating elements around this particular query that it would be impossible to effectively address them in one… Continue reading Change your REaction