In the course of couple’s therapy I am almost always investigating the extent to which the couple is navigating their partnership. As may be imagined, the entire model of ‘partnership’ is generally broken when a couple is in crisis. It becomes essential then to reestablish parameters and potentially renegotiate how their partnership looks and works.… Continue reading Partnerships Defined – the anatomy of a good relationship
Occasionally along our growth journey we may get 'stuck' and I often discover it's related to our unwillingness to OWN some element of our 'selves' - one of those little hidden 'secrets' that keeps us wading through bouts of internal shame and feeling "not good enough". Rarely is it black and white or out there… Continue reading Step One: OWN it!
My brother recently married and with wedding season about to step into full swing I thought it appropo to share here, some of the sisterly (dusted with professional) advice that was offered. Whether you are about to be married or are deep into the commitment, the following can serve as a reminder for those little… Continue reading When Forever Feels Like A Long Time – Thoughts about Marriage
This is the second post inspired by Dr. Brenee Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability. One of the statements she made was regarding ‘shame’ was “the less you talk about it – the more you have it”; a statement I feel needs more discussion. Occasionally, clients will talk about having a ‘secret’, something they’ve held onto… Continue reading Ditch the Secret – Talk About It!
Yesterday I made the claim to a client that "We all are ashamed of something", which I believe to be true. Shame is a self-destructive emotion. I frequently work with clients to stare it down, share their story, acknowledge the lesson, and begin to forgive as an antidote to most shame but to do that,… Continue reading Begin with Being Vulnerable
I read the other day that PRIDE is one of the keys to happiness and started thinking about how so many of us consider it one of the deadly ‘sins’. I want to challenge your thoughts about pride.... What does it mean for someone to have pride but not to be narcissistic or boastful… how… Continue reading Pride is Not Deadly
Recently, I’ve heard several people say that you can’t help who you fall in love with and while I basically agree with that sentiment, I am not convinced that we should always take action when we feel love for someone. When you fall in love you generally experience feelings of happiness, but what if your… Continue reading When Love Hurts