I often witness conversational exchanges between two people where one of the individuals expresses themselves by harshly criticizing the other: “You are always telling lies” “You don’t have any self-respect” “You never listen” “I can never trust you” “That was a dumb mistake” And so on. I will usually observe this type of exchange long… Continue reading A Slow and Painful Death
Ramblings about motherhood and the last child leaving home... what are the lies we tell ourselves?
This is the second post inspired by Dr. Brenee Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability. One of the statements she made was regarding ‘shame’ was “the less you talk about it – the more you have it”; a statement I feel needs more discussion. Occasionally, clients will talk about having a ‘secret’, something they’ve held onto… Continue reading Ditch the Secret – Talk About It!
Over and over again I work with clients who are feeling challenged by behavior that is motivated because they are concerned with how or what people will think of them. All too often, our behavior is motivated, literally directed by the thought "what will they think of me?" Clearly, at the very core of our… Continue reading What Do YOU Think?
I thought of an interesting fact today…. Not one of the couples that I have ever counseled has come in with a feeling of being appreciated by the other partner. Repeat: Appreciation of one another is always absent in the relationships that are in trouble or are problematic. We hear a lot about Gratitude these… Continue reading Save Your Relationship with Gratitude
Have you ever told a lie? Most of us have even if it was a 'little white lie' that protected the feelings of someone we love. Sometimes a lie is kind "no honey, those pants don't make your butt look big". Sometimes a lie is compassionate "I'm sure he didn't feel any pain in those… Continue reading “What’s Wrong Honey?”: When We Lie…
This post is directed primarily at women not because men don't have the same needs but because in my experience, women deny themselves more frequently in the department of “me time” than men do. We all know that by nature, women have a tendency to be caregivers (generally speaking) and yet they are the worst at caring… Continue reading “Me Time” – You are important too.