In the course of couple’s therapy I am almost always investigating the extent to which the couple is navigating their partnership. As may be imagined, the entire model of ‘partnership’ is generally broken when a couple is in crisis. It becomes essential then to reestablish parameters and potentially renegotiate how their partnership looks and works.… Continue reading Partnerships Defined – the anatomy of a good relationship
One of the things I hear A LOT when I work with couples is that “things have changed from when we were first together”. Let’s be realistic, relationships change. As we become more familiar with one another and move through our ‘histories’ – we, as people, change. We make assumptions, we project, and we may… Continue reading Benefits of Having a Snuggle Buddy – How 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Relationship
My brother recently married and with wedding season about to step into full swing I thought it appropo to share here, some of the sisterly (dusted with professional) advice that was offered. Whether you are about to be married or are deep into the commitment, the following can serve as a reminder for those little… Continue reading When Forever Feels Like A Long Time – Thoughts about Marriage
One of the most common ‘issues’ I see in my practice when working with couples is a lack of validation for how someone FEELS. Of course, it’s not only absent in couples relationships, but in family and business relationships as well.What is Validation?By definition it is “to confirm or establish the truthfulness or soundness of… Continue reading Validate through Empathy
My mother was known to say “I love you deeply but right now I don’t like you very much.” Think about it… The hardest relationships to maintain and carry on day to day are the ones with those individuals that we see most often, spend the most time with; our significant others and family members… Continue reading You’ve Got a Rash!
I heard a story awhile back about an older couple who decided to try counseling before calling it quits after 40 years of marriage and when they sat down with the counselor for the first time the therapist turned to the gentleman and asked “How would you describe the problem in your marriage?” – The… Continue reading Love Language
Over the weekend I squeezed in a couple of social events and had some great conversations with old and new friends. In the process of small talk I shared some of the news in my life and the invention of TheHarmonyCC.com. Immediately (as frequently happens to MH therapists) one of the people I had just… Continue reading Bump in the Road