This is the second post inspired by Dr. Brenee Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability. One of the statements she made was regarding ‘shame’ was “the less you talk about it – the more you have it”; a statement I feel needs more discussion. Occasionally, clients will talk about having a ‘secret’, something they’ve held onto… Continue reading Ditch the Secret – Talk About It!
Yesterday I made the claim to a client that "We all are ashamed of something", which I believe to be true. Shame is a self-destructive emotion. I frequently work with clients to stare it down, share their story, acknowledge the lesson, and begin to forgive as an antidote to most shame but to do that,… Continue reading Begin with Being Vulnerable
Each of us has a set of values, hopes, dreams, and a ‘code’ that we would like to live by. Some of us are conscious of it, others ‘feel’ it, but may not be able to explain it in words. We know what all these things are because when they exist in our lives we… Continue reading Be Happy – Set Boundaries!
Over and over again I work with clients who are feeling challenged by behavior that is motivated because they are concerned with how or what people will think of them. All too often, our behavior is motivated, literally directed by the thought "what will they think of me?" Clearly, at the very core of our… Continue reading What Do YOU Think?
I read the other day that PRIDE is one of the keys to happiness and started thinking about how so many of us consider it one of the deadly ‘sins’. I want to challenge your thoughts about pride.... What does it mean for someone to have pride but not to be narcissistic or boastful… how… Continue reading Pride is Not Deadly
One of the most common ‘issues’ I see in my practice when working with couples is a lack of validation for how someone FEELS. Of course, it’s not only absent in couples relationships, but in family and business relationships as well.What is Validation?By definition it is “to confirm or establish the truthfulness or soundness of… Continue reading Validate through Empathy
Over the weekend I squeezed in a couple of social events and had some great conversations with old and new friends. In the process of small talk I shared some of the news in my life and the invention of TheHarmonyCC.com. Immediately (as frequently happens to MH therapists) one of the people I had just… Continue reading Bump in the Road