Change, Healthy Behaviors, Relationships, Unhealthy Behaviors

A Slow and Painful Death

I often witness conversational exchanges between two people where one of the individuals expresses themselves by harshly criticizing the other: “You are always telling lies” “You don’t have any self-respect” “You never listen” “I can never trust you” “That was a dumb mistake” And so on.  I will usually observe this type of exchange long… Continue reading A Slow and Painful Death

Change, Healthy Behaviors, Relationships

Benefits of Having a Snuggle Buddy – How 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Relationship

One of the things I hear A LOT when I work with couples is that “things have changed from when we were first together”. Let’s be realistic, relationships change.  As we become more familiar with one another and move through our ‘histories’ – we, as people, change. We make assumptions, we project, and we may… Continue reading Benefits of Having a Snuggle Buddy – How 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Your Relationship

Healthy Behaviors, Relationships

Validate through Empathy

One of the most common ‘issues’ I see in my practice when working with couples is a lack of validation for how someone FEELS. Of course, it’s not only absent in couples relationships, but in family and business relationships as well.What is Validation?By definition it is “to confirm or establish the truthfulness or soundness of… Continue reading Validate through Empathy

Healthy Behaviors

Bump in the Road

Over the weekend I squeezed in a couple of social events and had some great conversations with old and new friends. In the process of small talk I shared some of the news in my life and the invention of TheHarmonyCC.com. Immediately (as frequently happens to MH therapists) one of the people I had just… Continue reading Bump in the Road