I often witness conversational exchanges between two people where one of the individuals expresses themselves by harshly criticizing the other: “You are always telling lies” “You don’t have any self-respect” “You never listen” “I can never trust you” “That was a dumb mistake” And so on. I will usually observe this type of exchange long… Continue reading A Slow and Painful Death
This is the second post inspired by Dr. Brenee Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability. One of the statements she made was regarding ‘shame’ was “the less you talk about it – the more you have it”; a statement I feel needs more discussion. Occasionally, clients will talk about having a ‘secret’, something they’ve held onto… Continue reading Ditch the Secret – Talk About It!
Yesterday I made the claim to a client that "We all are ashamed of something", which I believe to be true. Shame is a self-destructive emotion. I frequently work with clients to stare it down, share their story, acknowledge the lesson, and begin to forgive as an antidote to most shame but to do that,… Continue reading Begin with Being Vulnerable
I am always so deeply saddened when I meet with clients who were never taught that they are lovable. I become infuriated with parents who had the audacity to emotionally or physically abuse their children. No matter how much understanding I have of parental dysfunction, it is simply heartbreaking to know that a perfect human… Continue reading You Were Born That Way
I read the other day that PRIDE is one of the keys to happiness and started thinking about how so many of us consider it one of the deadly ‘sins’. I want to challenge your thoughts about pride.... What does it mean for someone to have pride but not to be narcissistic or boastful… how… Continue reading Pride is Not Deadly
Moms usually mean well but sometimes they say things to make us feel better that don't actually turn out that way. Sometimes, the statements stay with us, burned into our subconscious and directing behavior of which, we are hardly aware. My sister was a beautiful child with Grace Kelly legs (for you younger folk, Grace… Continue reading Mom May Not Know Best
This post is directed primarily at women not because men don't have the same needs but because in my experience, women deny themselves more frequently in the department of “me time” than men do. We all know that by nature, women have a tendency to be caregivers (generally speaking) and yet they are the worst at caring… Continue reading “Me Time” – You are important too.